Dear Sassy:
I want to thank you for your site. It gives me some information that I need but you don't have anything on here about this. I have a boyfriedn he isn't my boyfriend but we hang out alot and all and it is physical. Sometimes I think he is seeing another chick but I don't have proof. Its a fealling, and if I call him and he doesn't answer his phone and he doesn't call me for a couple of days I thinnk he is with someone else. The problem is I am afraid to ask him and he won't tell me even if I did ask him. Is it okay for me to want to aks him where he went and why he didn't answer his phone? I think he is hiding something and I don't know what to do.
Dear Don't Ask Don't Tell:
Well I am slightly confused as to your terminology...is he a friend, a boyfriend, or a friend with benefits? Do you just hang out and thats it? I mean I need to know more, but to make this short, it sounds as if you are liking someone a little more than they like you. Hence the issues you have when he doesn't answer his phone etc...if there is no agreement and/or stated phrases from him actually identifying you has his girl/woman/lady, then you are just friends. He may be hiding something, but at this point, its his business. I would say never ask a question that you are not prepared to hear the answer to. What if he says he was out with another woman, you will be devasted and feel betrayed and honestly, will not have the right to feel betrayed, because you are just friends. The first thing I have to say is - STOP SLEEPING WITH HIM! That is the main thing that YOU need to do, because sometimes sex can and has confused the issue. You are now initimate with a man that you are unsure of and that you really don't know...let him go, I know its hard, but let him go and move on. Don't ask him a thing about who/what/when/where when he is not with you and let him live his life and you live yours.
Please email me to keep me updated on what happens.
Good luck!
SassyScribe
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