Here is an email that I received a couple of days ago...
Dear SassyScribe
I’m a big fan of your blogs. You seem to have a lot of insight on relationships. So I want to ask you for your advice.
I have a guy friend that I really like. I spend most of my days wondering what it is I can do to make his day better. I don’t think wants me the way I want him. I like him a hole lot. We dated for a while, then we stopped seeing each other suddenly. When we met again, I realized I still felt the same way about him. I don’t know if its love, but I do know that I like him. My problem is I always ask him out and he never asks me. Does that mean he doesn’t like me? He also says he ain’t looking for a relationship, but he calls me a lot. I don’t know what to do or say. I can’t sleep at night because I am trying to figure out what I did wrong. Please help me.
Sleepless in Ocala
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Dear Sleepless,
Wow! I used to be in a similar situation myself. It sounds like that this man is just a friend and that is all he seems to want to be to you. I know it hurts, but you need to move on. You have made this man a priority in your life, while at this time you are just an option to him…if that. From what you write, I don’t think he even sees you in that way, so I suggest you move on. DO YOU! A small phrase, with a powerful meaning…you are worrying too much about a man that isn’t worth it. Like I said, I too have been where you are. Stop chasing this man. If he wants to be with you he will. If he doesn’t he won’t but nothing you do or say is going to change his mind. There is no relationship, nor a commitment, so your just friends. Take my advice; don’t loose anymore sleep over a man that isn’t loosing any over you. When he calls, stop answering his phone calls…don’t be so available. If you're feelings weren't involved, then you could possibly have a very enriching, enlightening and/or fulfilling friendship. However, from what you write, your feelings are involved...too involved to be objective. You would not be able to handle seeing him with other women. There are plenty of men out there. Take some time to reflect on your life and what it is you truly want, before you even attempt to allow another person in.
Keep me posted on your progress...keep your head up! Good luck!
SassyScribe
